Over the past decade or so, I've found there are a few common pitfalls that women who want to get married inadvertently fall into, and which decrease their chances of getting married while they're still young enough to walk down the aisle without stopping for breath. One of these pitfalls is living together before marriage. These are eight reasons I believe living together is a bad choice if a woman wants to marry:
Make him feel tight up
Men and women have very different ideas about what living together means. Women typically see it as an almost inevitable step toward marriage, while men see it as a no-obligation "test drive." Couples who initiate a live-in relationship under the fog of such contradictory assumptions are already in trouble. You've heard the old expression, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?’’ something like some sort of live porn site video clip watching It's an ugly phrase, but there's some truth to the message.
A man finds it disturbing
Living together will mean that a man doesn't have to pursue his girlfriend any longer. And if something is too easily acquired, it just doesn't hold the same value as something that is more challenging to get. I have seen many men who are apathetic about their partner, and I have noticed this to be truer with couples who are either co-habiting or who lived together before "sliding" into marriage.
Lax latitude towards commitment
Couples who live together are less likely to get married why? Well, for the reasons I've mentioned that remove the motivation to marry. Co-habiting couples also tend to have a more lax attitude toward commitment and don't work as hard to stay together. When their relationship goes through a rough spot -as all relationships do - it is all too easy to just walk away. The legal and public commitment of marriage motivates couples to work through conflict, strengthen the relationship and stay together.